Oct 22, 2019
Julie and Casey visit the offices of C.A. Goldberg Law to speak with actual superheroine Carrie Goldberg, victim’s rights attorney for people dealing with revenge porn, stalking and harassment, blackmail, sexual assault, etc. Hear Carrie’s take on standing up to the powerful, getting over her fear of public speaking, embracing your inner f*ck you, and why sometimes the key to confidence is stabby accessories.
Content warning: Discussion of Carrie’s cases, which involve victims of sexual assault, rape, and stalking, as well as some salty language.
TOP TAKEAWAYS FROM THIS EPISODE
- How you say your name is incredibly important - and worth working on.
- You are the only one who can tell your story - it’s not about you, it’s about the message
- You don’t need to feel combative with your audience, but you ALSO don’t need to coddle or accommodate them.
- Upping your tolerance for risk is a necessity for a big life - failures are raw material for the next level
- Imposter syndrome
- 24 hour rule: Celebrate the victories - and then move on so you can do the work
- Who gave you permission to take risks? Sometimes it comes from within, sometimes it’s from an important supporter in your life. (Cultivate those supporters, and also cultivate your “inner f*ck you”.)
- What’s your superhero costume/armor?
- Imposter syndrome strikes even the most glamorous among us - and also maybe it’s a good thing. It keeps us from wrecking the world, and it also leads us to prepare and do good work.
- Have someone you can send a bat signal to when you’re scared. Sharing fear helps us through it. #neverworryalone
- You don’t have to be a perfect public speaker - ums and uhs aren’t the death of your gravitas.
- You get to decide how (or whether to) use notes in your speech.
- “Play” = what’s left when you aren’t censoring yourself
Carrie Goldberg is a victims’ rights lawyer born and raised in Aberdeen, Washington. Her law firm, C.A. Goldberg, PLLC, is based in Brooklyn and litigates nationally for targets of online harassment, stalking, and sexual assault. Before starting her law firm, Carrie provided social services to Nazi victims and went on to become a lawyer for the Vera Institute of Justice. Her major litigations include Herrick v. Grindr, NNAF v. John Doe, Hadley v. City of Anaheim,L.W. as parent/guardian of K.M. v. New York City Department of Education. Her work was featured in the documentary Netizens. Carrie attended Vassar College and Brooklyn Law School. She resides in Brooklyn, New York. Carrie’s book Nobody’s Victim: Fighting Stalkers, Psychos, Pervs and Trolls was published by Penguin in August 2019.
Find Carrie Goldberg: website, twitter, instagram
Buy Carrie's book: Nobody’s Victim, Fighting Psychos, Stalkers, Pervs, and Trolls
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